10 Ways to Cultivate Scarcity

Part of being successful with women has to do with a quality that you rarely find in a man,  and will NEVER find in a man who doesn’t have success with women.

Hmm… Could this mean it’s important?

The quality is SCARCITY.

Most men are, and always will be, FAR too available for women. This is what gives women so much power, and it’s also the reason why so many men go through life feeling like they don’t have any options.

So what’s the solution for you? Master the art of scarcity.

Here are 10 ways you can become a limited resource:

1. Have Somewhere to Be

The problem a lot of guys have with their initial approach is that women appear resistant because they aren’t sure yet what a guy wants (though they have a good idea), or how much of their time he’s going to consume.

So how do you field this problem? Well, if you’ve been studying the PUA arts for a while now, you’ve probably heard that it’s best to let the group of women that you’re randomly approaching know that you have somewhere to be. This can be as simple as telling them you’re on your way to go meet your friend, or even just talking to them over your shoulder.

In night game, if it’s a crowd of drunken partiers who don’t seem too worried about someone joining the group and you’re just out to meet someone new, it’s not such a big deal. If it is the middle of the afternoon, however, and you’re approaching a woman on the street, it’s probably a good tactic to use. This approach saves you from those awkward moments when you run out of things to say.

2. Don’t Answer Your Phone

Fielding phone calls can be a tricky situation. You got her number and she’s calling you back. Woo hoo, finally!! OK, easy there, big guy. Don’t go running across the room like a fifteen year old girl — your heart thumping and pigtails flying — to snatch up the phone. Play it cool. Let it ring a little bit. Don’t answer and call her back later. Better yet, stop babysitting your phone and waiting for her to call. Try leaving it at home every once and a while, and getting to it when you get back. It doesn’t hurt to be unavailable from time to time.

3. End the Call

Always get off the phone first, especially if you just started hanging out with this woman. Don’t be that guy that talks to her for 3 or 4 hours and grasps for straws every time the conversation dies off.

Be cheerful, chit chat a little, make your plan if there is one to make, and then get the HELL off the phone.

4. Wait to Respond

This goes for voice mail and text messages. Have you ever had a girl text you AND THEN YOU TEXT HER RIGHT BACK… and then she waits a while to answer… AND THEN YOU TEXT HER RIGHT BACK… and then she doesn’t respond… AND THEN YOU…

Okay, you better at least have the sense not to do the last one. Over-eagerness is easily picked up on — even in a text session. Try waiting just as long, or even TWICE as long, as she does to respond to you.

5. Don’t Show Up Early

While showing up a little late can be a nice touch, it’s a dangerous move, and I personally get a little bitter when people show up late when they’ve agreed to meet with me at a certain time. She might be the same. Don’t worry about that too much, but ESPECIALLY don’t be that guy sitting in one spot waiting for her because you HAD to be there early. It gives you too much time to psych yourself out, and then you look like a real dork when she shows up.

6. Just Be Friends

Remember that line that used to haunt you at night — “Let’s just be friends”? How about giving women a taste of their own medicine? Do so lightly, of course. Make offhand comments in the middle of your ball-busting about how she’d make a great friend or how she’s like your little sister. This drives women nuts. This is supposed to be their line, right? They just aren’t used to guys responding to them this way, especially when the rapport is building.

7. Go Home Early

Sometimes when a date is going well, it’s best just to call it a night.  Tell her you’ve got something to do and get out of there because the quickest way to ruin it when you’ve had a little success in the beginning is to get overexcited and push too far too quickly. She might even just get turned off because she can see your excitement. Call it a night and leave her wanting more. If it went as well as you think, you’ll get another chance

8. Be a Busy Guy

Being an all-around busy guy is attractive. It shows you have other things going on in your life, that you are ambitious and working towards something, and that there is more to your life than her—which there better be! Get hobbies, get serious about them, and be so busy that you don’t have to lie about being busy. Women should not be your only obligation in life.

9. Play Hard to Get

Playing hard to get is a great way to flirt. Make jokes about them moving too fast too soon when women touch you too much. Step back when they try to kiss you and tell them they have to earn it. Keep them on their toes and wondering just what your deal is, and then move in for a kiss on your own schedule. Go easy with this until you’re really feeling comfortable and confident.

10. Keep Your Options Open

Don’t start off relationships with women thinking about what kind of wife she would make or even that she would be an awesome girlfriend. Instead, take it easy. Think of it as making a new friend at first or at least nothing more than a chance to have some fun. Unless you’ve both committed to being in a relationship together, don’t cut other women out of your life. Continue to pursue other prospects and make it clear that you have options. Nothing turns a woman off more than a guy who is ready to drop his entire life and make her THE center of everything.

Keep in mind that while you’re doing all this stuff, you’ve still got to be fun, witty, and charming. You can’t just walk in and be the unattainable guy without rewarding her attention from time to time and expect her to keep pursuing you. Or, heck, I don’t know everything Go ahead and test it out and see what results you get! The trick is to keep them guessing. Don’t be that guy who is just happy to have a woman, ANY woman, spend time with them. They should feel lucky to spend time with you.