Onward With Sexual Escalation – The Art of Moving Forward

When studying game, you’ll come across a lot of small tips and techniques that will help you with women.  You’ll learn new ways to build comfort, great ways to approach women, style tips for looking your best, ways to build value…it goes on and on.  Most of this stuff is good but it isn’t all crucial – there’s “no connect the dots” element to game that will lead you directly to a woman’s bedroom if you get it all right.

But one place where you absolutely cannot cut corners is escalation.  If you never gather up the courage to push a great conversation with a woman to the next level, you simply won’t ever get anywhere.

The exceptions are in the cases that you are a good-looking guy, she is an aggressive woman, and there is alcohol involved, but even these moments will often fail if you don’t do some escalating of your own.  And it’s certainly no long-term strategy.

There is simply no compromising escalation – it’s a must.  For this reason, a few things to think about for those of you who are struggling.

The Biggest Obstacle is Most Likely You

Sexual escalation is a very natural thing.  If you’re struggling to move your interactions past the comfort stage, it’s most likely because you are simply not doing it.

This might be because you lack the courage.  It might be because you aren’t sure how.  It might be because you have been out of the game for a while.

Whatever the case may be, you’ll move past this hump a lot quicker if you just realize that the problem stems from something you are not doing.  You must escalate.  You must learn when the time is right.  You must make it sexual.

Learn to Back Off and Start Over

It’s helpful to think about escalation as a balancing act.  You have to constantly gauge her reaction and take notice when you’re pushing too far, too fast.  When this does happen and you find her getting cold or backing away, don’t assume you’ve completely lost out – you probably just haven’t built enough comfort, and in some cases she may just be self-conscious about what other people are thinking.

Back off a little bit, break rapport a little, and then and essentially start over again in the comfort building stage.  You’ll find you can do this throughout the night, moving causally through the separate stages of attraction until you get it right or realize it’s a lost cause.

There Are Certain Things That Nearly Guarantee You Can Kiss Her

Surely you’ve heard of IOI’s, or Indicators of Interest.

When a woman does something specific, like ask you for your name before you ask for hers, catches your eye (especially repeatedly) from across the room, or swats you playfully on the arm, you can take these as signs that she is interested in you.

If she does a few of these things, it’s almost guaranteed, and you’d be a fool to let the opportunity slip you by.

Well, similarly, there are certain things a woman would never let you get away with unless she was also ready to let you kiss her.  And knowing when a woman is ready to be kissed is obviously a huge advantage on your part.

For example, if she’ll let you put your hand on her stomach and let it linger there, she’d probably allow you to kiss her – women don’t just let any man do this.  If she allows your face to come within inches of hers while talking flirty and doesn’t back away or get awkward, she probably wants to kiss.  If you’re dancing and your faces end up pressed against each other for a while, kiss her.

Know these things and use them by trying them before transitioning into the kiss.  In this way, you can only kiss a woman when it’s certain to work.

Don’t Feel Like You Lost Just Because She Stopped You

At a certain level of the game and after a woman is definitely attracted to you, persistence is an important thing in a man.  There’s no shame in trying to push a situation sexually when you know she likes you, and there’s no shame in her holding you at a certain distance.

As a caveat, I’m in no way saying that you shouldn’t always stop when she tells you to.  Make it clear that she has the decision to do what she wants.

But if you made a move and she stopped you but is still having a great time and hanging out with you – remember, you guys just met – as well as being flirty, and possibly making out with you, she likes you.  In cases like this, she just isn’t ready for sex (or whatever) yet and may want to wait for a certain amount of time to have passed so she can feel good about herself.  Try again later.

Don’t be needy.  Don’t be desperate.  But do be a persistent man who goes for what he wants.

Escalate.
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Is Your Comfort-Building Being Sabotaged By a Lack of Conversational Skills?

Many men who struggle to build comfort with the women they meet simply do so because they lack conversational skills – or at the very least, they lack conversational skills when talking with women.  They’ll walk into a nightclub and easily slip into conversation with a great-looking girl standing next to them at the bar, but as the banter starts, they suddenly find themselves at a loss of words.  Or the girl loses interest in what they are saying and subtly excuses herself to move on. 

It’s simply impossible to build comfort if you can’t find things to talk about with women.

A conversation must be moved along by having conversational skills.  But does that mean you’re doomed if you don’t have the gift of gab?  Not at all.  You just need to do a little prep-work first.  Let’s have a look at improving your blabbing skills so you can keep the conversation going.

The Trivial is Your Friend

A lot of men – especially the ones that struggle to meet women – aren’t really too fond of trivial conversation.  They feel that any discourse between two people should have some honesty and integrity behind it.  That conversations should be meaningful and intelligent.  Sigh.

Look, you’re not debating health care here, and women, who are so much more socially intelligent than most of us, figured out a long time ago that at the most basic level every human interaction starts out on a trivial level.  Because of this, many of them have learned to banter and have fun with trivial subjects of conversation.

Now, don’t confuse this with talking about the mundane.  Just because something is trivial and doesn’t matter a whole lot on the big scheme of things doesn’t mean it can’t be interesting and fun.  And it should be.

If you’re prepared and adept at turning almost anything into a conversation, you’ll have no problem keeping it going.

Learn to Grab Onto Threads

These so-called “trivial” subjects aren’t straws you have to grasp for – they’re actually presented in most conversations as a run of course.  Notice that when you’re talking with someone they’ll often hang bait in their conversations.  They’ll end a sentence with a reference to another subject or open up transitions for you.

It’s like they’re standing back, holding open a door, and saying, “Here you go.  Here’s something you can talk about.”

You should take this bait – this is the natural flow of conversation.  Don’t be the guy who spends the whole conversation focusing on the one commonality you had when you first started talking.

Saying Stupid Stuff Just Happens

Not everything you say will be perfect.  Not every joke will be funny.  People say stupid things all the time, and you’ll notice that even hot, social women say a lot of stupid things for the simple reason that they talk more than you do.  And no one holds it against them.

Conversation is not meant to be perfect, but it should move.  It should just keep growing.  Don’t think too much about everything you say, and if you say something dumb or uninteresting, just move forward.

Forget Your Goal for a While

Women are always on edge when they meet new men, and this is one of the reasons we struggle to build comfort with them.  They often assume almost all men have ulterior motives (often true) – not to mention that they assume some men are even dangerous (unfortunately, sometimes true as well).

So while it’s fine to have an ulterior motive for talking to a beautiful woman (you after all, human), you’ve got to at least mask that in the beginning.  Don’t just walk up with a predatorial stare and try to jump down her throat.

As the conversation unfolds, push your “goal” away for a while.  It’s hard for a man to do that – we always feel a need for purpose.  But if you just focus on having a great time and talking with a new, interesting person you’ve met, true comfort will build itself.  Eventually, you’ll have to escalate if you want to go further, but put that on the back burner for a bit.

Learn to Love Talking to Everyone

The best way I know to get better at talking with attractive women is to get better at talking with everyone else.  Start practicing your art of the trivial everywhere you go.  The supermarket.  The bank.  The men’s room (preferably not at the urinals).

Practice joking around with people too.  Don’t feel like you’re being annoying – instead make people’s day by shaking them up a little, highlighting a humorous observation about the world around you, and sharing a laugh.  The people surrounding you in the everyday world are people just like you.  Go ahead and connect with them.

As time goes by, you’ll become much more adept at making small talk with people beyond asking them their name, occupation, and hometown.  And the more comfortable you get with that, the easier it will be to converse and eventually establish comfort with the women you meet.  And it will be more natural.

Now get out there and do some talking!

 

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Get Better at Building Comfort with These 5 Simple Tips

Building comfort is a crucial part of interaction with any human being.  But it’s especially true with women because they so often feel like men only want to get something for them and don’t really care about who they are as a person.

Not to mention that for most women, who are more emotional in nature, it’s crucial to have a spark for any relationship to work.  Sure, women can do strictly physical relationships, but they typically must feel like there’s at least a dash of that “something more.”

If you don’t learn how to build trust and rapport with a good-looking girl, if you don’t learn to make a connection, your attempts to sexually escalate will at the very least fall flat on their face and at the worst leave you looking like a creep.

Here are some tips for helping you with comfort-building if this is an area you’re stuck on.

1)  Avoid the “Everyday Questions”

One of the first lessons in building proper comfort is to avoid (like the plague) those everyday questions that people ask each other just to pass the time or make an excuse for idle chatter.

You know the ones I’m talking about…”How are you doing today?”  “Where are you from?”  “What do you do for a living?”  “What are you studying?”

Sure, there’s a time and place for questions like this, but asking them right when you meet someone is not going to endear them to you and make them intrigued to talk with you more.  They hear this from everyone else all day, most of whom don’t really care about the answer.

It doesn’t inspire.  It doesn’t connect.

So learn how to be more creative in your conversations with people.  Learn to talk about extremely trivial (but fun) things or to talk about more meaningful, emotional subjects.

2)  Show Interest in Her Most Insignificant Accomplishments

Some people can be quite boring to talk to and may not have the most interesting things to say – especially when you first meet them.  Then again, some women are quite interesting, but us men feel we need to impress them, so we spend a lot of time highlighting our own great experiences and qualities without stopping to acknowledge the things they’ve mentioned.

Have you ever heard it said that everyone’s favorite subject is themselves?  Imagine this world as a place where everyone walks around so self-interested that we sit there and talk to each other about ourselves without ever acknowledging one another’s stories (listen to the typical conversation and this isn’t far from the truth).

So ignore yourself for a minute.  It’s fine to let slip your more interesting tidbits, sometimes, but think of it as hinting at them rather than talking about them.  Remain somewhat mysterious and don’t tell her everything about herself.

Congratulate her on her story instead, no matter how much “cooler” yours might be.  Ask her questions about it.  She’s giving you something to talk about, so capitalize on that.

3)  Learn to Establish Common Ground With Just About Everything

The true art of comfort is realizing that we all have common ground and it’s quite possible to make a connection with just about anyone if you think about it.  She comes from a Mexican family and you just happen to love Mexican Food.  She went to school at UC Davis and so did your best friend – in fact, you visited him there before.  You both want to travel someday.  You both love Seinfeld.

Sure, sometimes we find even stronger connections with the people we meet, and that’s great, but you don’t have to be soul mates to establish rapport.  You just have to be able to find something to talk about with and agree on.

It most certainly isn’t rocket science.

4)  Don’t Be So Negative

While it’s important to learn how to converse about just about anything, do not get the idea in your head that your problems make good grounds for meaningful conversation with someone you just met.  Bad, bad, bad.  All you’re doing is building a negative connotation in her mind about you, and that, my friend, is the opposite of comfortable.  It doesn’t feel nice, and it doesn’t make her want to spend more time around you.

A few dashes of cynicism are typically appreciated, but only if they’re done in a friendly, humorous, and good-natured manner.  Don’t be the type of man who takes the world too seriously, either in your own life or your interactions with others.

5)  Don’t Get Too Comfortable

It’s definitely possible to get too comfortable.  Don’t do that unless you want to be her new best buddy, and I’m guessing that the last thing you want is another woman telling you she just wants to be your friend.

So where does the line get crossed between healthy rapport and becoming nothing more than a friend?

Well, first off, keep the conversation interesting by breaking rapport from time to time.  The best way to do this right is by being a little bit flirty and/or challenging her from time to time.

Also, remember that comfort is only one part of a successful interaction with a woman you’ve just met.  It’s a transition stage.  Ultimately, you’ve got to move it past the comfort stage and into the next level, which means sexual escalation.

If you never sexually escalate, you deserve to just be her friend because that’s what you’re acting like.

In a nightclub environment, if you’ve been talking with her for half an hour already, you absolutely need to push things to the next level.  Of course, this varies in other situations and is ultimately determined by each unique situation, but you’ll get a feel for it over time.
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Need Help Dating? There’s an App for that!

It seems like everyone has a smart phone nowadays and these little pocket computers are decked out with apps.  Location-based apps, check-ins and services are changing how people interact, even in their dating life.  According to Juniper Research the mobile dating market is expected to grow to 1.4 billion by 2013.

Location-based features are creating new ways for singles to find potential dates.  Many dating apps utilize the GPS capability of smart phones to allow subscribers to see nearby singles who meet their dating criteria.  There are also dating apps designed to make date recommendations, enable digital flirting, link social services together, and arrange meet ups.

There is a fun newcomer on the market, the Pocket Dating Advice app.  It can help a user quickly discover his possible compatibility with a woman he just met. The app starts with a short personality test which is a fun ice-breaker at any bar or nightclub, once the questions are completed the app generates helpful talking topics. The app then goes into stealth mode and privately emails the user dating tips, and an analysis of the woman’s personality type including, how to build attraction and get a second date as well as potential relationship problems.  View the free Attraction Explained app here.

A recent study noted that 40% of people were using a mobile dating service while out at bars, clubs and restaurants! So get out there!

 



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Where are all the chicks? This place is a sausage fest!

“Where do I meet women?” Is a big question that weighs on the minds of a lot men. You may have all the right moves and all the right lines but if you can’t find a woman it’s all kind of pointless.

"YUM, I like sausage!"

Make your location work for you! You want to find a place where women who embody the qualities you are looking for in a mate are already hanging out.  There are plenty of places to go besides nightclubs and bars.

1) Festivals and parades aren’t just for kids.  Every city has it’s own celebrations throughout the year that coincide with holidays, culture pride, and subculture frivolity.  It’s not hard to find an event for any interest you may have.  Many cities hold celebrations in honor of Asian, Norwegian, Celtic, and African cultures.  If you’re looking for a woman of a different race this would be a perfect way to find one and learn more about her culture’s customs during the process. Parades and protests are another way to connect with a woman on something she is passionate about.  Many cities hold annual zombie walks, solstice parades, and Free Tibet protests!  Check on your local city website for upcoming events you may want to participate in.  If none of these interest you there is always music.  Music festivals abound during Summer time and are a perfect way to meet women who have your taste in music.

2) Volunteering in your community is a great way to meet women who are socially conscious.  You could volunteer at a hospital or nursing home and meet some nurses while you’re helping the ill.  There are lots of community gardens and neighborhood groups who meet often to beautify the city.  If you’re looking for a woman with a spiritual side you can volunteer at local church affairs, there is always a weekend bake sale or garage sale that needs your help!  You could even volunteer at the local children’s theater if you’re really looking for a woman who is good with kids.

3) Meet ups and clubs are easy to find in your area with the power of the internet.  If you haven’t  yet done a search on meetup.com for groups to share your interests with, stop waiting it’s free.  Craiglist is still a viable source for community listings, and if that site creeps you out too much check the local college website or library bulletin board for meet ups.  You can find a writer’s group or book club to join, you could even find a nice wine tasting club and brush up on your wine knowledge. These are all great ways to meet women and it’s much easier to start a conversation with a woman who you share a common interest.

4) Classes are also a great way to meet women.  Take an art class, a dance class, dog training class, or yes a cooking class! Find something you’ve always wanted to learn and share your enthusiasm for the subject  with the women in the room.  The best part about these  kind of classes is that most men aren’t brave enough to sign up so you could find yourself surrounded by women!

As the possibilities of finding  new places to meet women are multiplying in your head make sure you take the next step and get out there!

 

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Emotional Opposites Attract

It’s something we hear over and over again, “Opposites attract.”  Nothing can be more frustrating than when an emotionally giving types pairs up with a reserved type. Psychologists say we look for our opposites in partners to fill in the experiences we lack in our lives.

communicate your needs

In the psychology field, these different ways of relating are called “attachment style,” and they are partly learned and partly genetic. Amir Levine, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist at Columbia University in New York, identifies three types of attachment styles: Secure, Anxious and Avoidant. Secure people make up over half the population and are typically comfortable with intimacy.

Those with an Anxious attachment style, about 20% of the population, often worry about their relationship and whether their partner loves them. They typically are emotionally giving and love to show and receive affection. Those with an Avoidant attachment style, about 25% of the population, may love deeply, but they are uncomfortable showing it. Often, they rely on their partner to initiate a display of affection. Sometimes, they don’t even enjoy receiving expressions of love and may tend to minimize closeness with others.

So giving types are initially attracted to reserved types and vice versa because they are so different.  Givers find reserved partners intriguing and want to draw affection from someone who doesn’t show it easily and reserved types often want to be drawn out of their shells.  Over time though these two types can develop relationship problems.  The giver can start to seem needy so the reserved partner reacts by distancing themselves which makes the giver give more in an effort to gain back the affection.

The good news is that attachment style can change. Whether you and your partner are opposites or not as long as you both can communicate your needs and wants the relationship can flourish. Experts say couples need to tell each other what they want and be specific!

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The Couple that Games Together, Stays Together.

Researchers at Brigham Young University have linked online gaming with marital dissatisfaction.

"Just 15 minutes, I've almost beat this level..."

349 couples that had at least one partner who played an online multiplayer role playing game, such as World of Warcraft,were surveyed about their relationship satisfaction.

The results showed that spouses who lose the attention of their significant other to gaming are not happy with their marriages.  Of those surveyed 65 percent of spouses who don’t play video games said they fight with their partner who does about the habit, and 75 percent said their spouses habit has affected their marriage for the worse.

Heade researcher Lundberg says “There’s a group of people out there we weren’t able to tap into. Interested spouses would say things like ‘I would love for my husband to take this survey, but there’s no way he’ll get off the computer long enough to take it.’ … You don’t want to take a survey on marital satisfaction when you’re on the verge of divorce.”

Before you get too anxious there is a ray of hope.  The survey found that couples who play together stay together.  74 percent of couples who played online multiplayer role playing games together found it had a positive impact on their marriage.

This confirms the idea that doing things together that both partners can enjoy helps to create bonding interactions that strengthen relationships.

Read more of the article here

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Men Don’t Actually Think about Sex Every 7 Seconds

According to Ohio State University it is a myth that men think about sex all day every day.

"Has it been 7 seconds yet?"

The research they’ve been doing into the subject shows that men do think about sex more than women but they also think about eating and sleeping more than women. Researches had students complete questionnaires about the frequency of their thoughts about sex, eating, and sleeping for a week.  The findings showed that on average women think about sex approximately 10 times a day, eating 15 times a day, and sleeping 8.5 times a day.  Men on average thought about sex 19 times a day, eating 18 times a day, and sleep 11 times a day.

Following the standard held view that men think about sex every seven seconds would mean they have 8,000 thoughts about sex while awake. This is an important finding that will help correct stereotypes about men.

Frequent thoughts about sex are more connected to how comfortable a person is with their own sexuality than than what gender they are.

The study also found that women who are more concerned with social acceptance were less likely to think about sex which may be linked to the idea that thinking about sex is not a typical expectation, or stereotype, for women.

Fisher, the head researcher of the study says that society has no real reason to believe men think about sex so much more than women. There has been no past research to show that men think about sex every seven seconds.

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Male Birth Control?

 

A daily pill for men?

Good news ladies scientists at Columbia University Medical Center are getting closer to developing a oral contraceptive for men.

Most of the research so far into male birth control methods has revolved around attempting to slow or stop production of sperm using steroids such as testosterone that interfere with the growth cycle of the sperm.

Scientists have been testing a non-steroidal contraceptive on mice, this compound stops sperm production.  This non-steroidal birth control has shown none of the side effects that are such a problem with steroidal birth controls.  Such side effects can include loss of libido and increased risk of heart disease.

Unfortunately the male birth control pill has to go through more vigorous testing before being available to the public.

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