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The study, carried out by Brigham Young University, found that couples who had sex the earliest in their relationship also had the worst relationship outcomes. Research conducted in the past shows that there are two schools of thought when it comes to sex and its effects on a relationship.

The first being, that sex is essential to a relationship as it allows the couple to assess each others sexual compatibility. If this school of thought is to be believed then it would be likely that couples who didn’t have sex before marriage would likely have issues further down the road. The second view is that couples who abstain from sex early in their relationship will develop a deeper connection as they are not relying on sex to become close to each other.

This new research indicates that it is better for a relationship if sex is delayed. This doesn’t necessarily mean waiting till after marriage but at least allowing enough time for the couple to get to know each other well enough to trust one another.

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Why is Mr. Ed Houben so successful?  He began donating his sperm to clinics about 9 years ago but once he found out there was a market for natural conception he started offering his services for free on online forums where women go look for baby-makers.  He has an 80% success rate for impregnating women.  Included in the medical records he provides women (they too have to provide medical records that show their health) is a spermiogram which shows just how fertile Mr Ed Houben truly is.  A sperm count of less than 20 million shows that the potential donor doesn’t have a good chance of creating a baby.  It’s generally excepted that  sperm counts of 80 to 100 million provide the best chance of procreation.  Ed’s is near 100 million.

For all those women out there who desperately want a child Ed provides his service for free, a sperm bank generally charges $6000 to $7000.  That’s one way to get lucky!
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In 2010, unmarried households were 45% of all U.S. households. 44.9% of the unmarried population aged 18 and older are female. For every 100 unmarried women there are 88 unmarried men.

-U.S. Census Bureau.

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But one place where you absolutely cannot cut corners is escalation.  If you never gather up the courage to push a great conversation with a woman to the next level, you simply won’t ever get anywhere.

The exceptions are in the cases that you are a good-looking guy, she is an aggressive woman, and there is alcohol involved, but even these moments will often fail if you don’t do some escalating of your own.  And it’s certainly no long-term strategy.

There is simply no compromising escalation – it’s a must.  For this reason, a few things to think about for those of you who are struggling.

The Biggest Obstacle is Most Likely You

Sexual escalation is a very natural thing.  If you’re struggling to move your interactions past the comfort stage, it’s most likely because you are simply not doing it.

This might be because you lack the courage.  It might be because you aren’t sure how.  It might be because you have been out of the game for a while.

Whatever the case may be, you’ll move past this hump a lot quicker if you just realize that the problem stems from something you are not doing.  You must escalate.  You must learn when the time is right.  You must make it sexual.

Learn to Back Off and Start Over

It’s helpful to think about escalation as a balancing act.  You have to constantly gauge her reaction and take notice when you’re pushing too far, too fast.  When this does happen and you find her getting cold or backing away, don’t assume you’ve completely lost out – you probably just haven’t built enough comfort, and in some cases she may just be self-conscious about what other people are thinking.

Back off a little bit, break rapport a little, and then and essentially start over again in the comfort building stage.  You’ll find you can do this throughout the night, moving causally through the separate stages of attraction until you get it right or realize it’s a lost cause.

There Are Certain Things That Nearly Guarantee You Can Kiss Her

Surely you’ve heard of IOI’s, or Indicators of Interest.

When a woman does something specific, like ask you for your name before you ask for hers, catches your eye (especially repeatedly) from across the room, or swats you playfully on the arm, you can take these as signs that she is interested in you.

If she does a few of these things, it’s almost guaranteed, and you’d be a fool to let the opportunity slip you by.

Well, similarly, there are certain things a woman would never let you get away with unless she was also ready to let you kiss her.  And knowing when a woman is ready to be kissed is obviously a huge advantage on your part.

For example, if she’ll let you put your hand on her stomach and let it linger there, she’d probably allow you to kiss her – women don’t just let any man do this.  If she allows your face to come within inches of hers while talking flirty and doesn’t back away or get awkward, she probably wants to kiss.  If you’re dancing and your faces end up pressed against each other for a while, kiss her.

Know these things and use them by trying them before transitioning into the kiss.  In this way, you can only kiss a woman when it’s certain to work.

Don’t Feel Like You Lost Just Because She Stopped You

At a certain level of the game and after a woman is definitely attracted to you, persistence is an important thing in a man.  There’s no shame in trying to push a situation sexually when you know she likes you, and there’s no shame in her holding you at a certain distance.

As a caveat, I’m in no way saying that you shouldn’t always stop when she tells you to.  Make it clear that she has the decision to do what she wants.

But if you made a move and she stopped you but is still having a great time and hanging out with you – remember, you guys just met – as well as being flirty, and possibly making out with you, she likes you.  In cases like this, she just isn’t ready for sex (or whatever) yet and may want to wait for a certain amount of time to have passed so she can feel good about herself.  Try again later.

Don’t be needy.  Don’t be desperate.  But do be a persistent man who goes for what he wants.

Escalate.

 
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It’s simply impossible to build comfort if you can’t find things to talk about with women.

A conversation must be moved along by having conversational skills.  But does that mean you’re doomed if you don’t have the gift of gab?  Not at all.  You just need to do a little prep-work first.  Let’s have a look at improving your blabbing skills so you can keep the conversation going.

The Trivial is Your Friend

A lot of men – especially the ones that struggle to meet women – aren’t really too fond of trivial conversation.  They feel that any discourse between two people should have some honesty and integrity behind it.  That conversations should be meaningful and intelligent.  Sigh.

Look, you’re not debating health care here, and women, who are so much more socially intelligent than most of us, figured out a long time ago that at the most basic level every human interaction starts out on a trivial level.  Because of this, many of them have learned to banter and have fun with trivial subjects of conversation.

Now, don’t confuse this with talking about the mundane.  Just because something is trivial and doesn’t matter a whole lot on the big scheme of things doesn’t mean it can’t be interesting and fun.  And it should be.

If you’re prepared and adept at turning almost anything into a conversation, you’ll have no problem keeping it going.

Learn to Grab Onto Threads

These so-called “trivial” subjects aren’t straws you have to grasp for – they’re actually presented in most conversations as a run of course.  Notice that when you’re talking with someone they’ll often hang bait in their conversations.  They’ll end a sentence with a reference to another subject or open up transitions for you.

It’s like they’re standing back, holding open a door, and saying, “Here you go.  Here’s something you can talk about.”

You should take this bait – this is the natural flow of conversation.  Don’t be the guy who spends the whole conversation focusing on the one commonality you had when you first started talking.

Saying Stupid Stuff Just Happens

Not everything you say will be perfect.  Not every joke will be funny.  People say stupid things all the time, and you’ll notice that even hot, social women say a lot of stupid things for the simple reason that they talk more than you do.  And no one holds it against them.

Conversation is not meant to be perfect, but it should move.  It should just keep growing.  Don’t think too much about everything you say, and if you say something dumb or uninteresting, just move forward.

Forget Your Goal for a While

Women are always on edge when they meet new men, and this is one of the reasons we struggle to build comfort with them.  They often assume almost all men have ulterior motives (often true) – not to mention that they assume some men are even dangerous (unfortunately, sometimes true as well).

So while it’s fine to have an ulterior motive for talking to a beautiful woman (you after all, human), you’ve got to at least mask that in the beginning.  Don’t just walk up with a predatorial stare and try to jump down her throat.

As the conversation unfolds, push your “goal” away for a while.  It’s hard for a man to do that – we always feel a need for purpose.  But if you just focus on having a great time and talking with a new, interesting person you’ve met, true comfort will build itself.  Eventually, you’ll have to escalate if you want to go further, but put that on the back burner for a bit.

Learn to Love Talking to Everyone

The best way I know to get better at talking with attractive women is to get better at talking with everyone else.  Start practicing your art of the trivial everywhere you go.  The supermarket.  The bank.  The men’s room (preferably not at the urinals).

Practice joking around with people too.  Don’t feel like you’re being annoying – instead make people’s day by shaking them up a little, highlighting a humorous observation about the world around you, and sharing a laugh.  The people surrounding you in the everyday world are people just like you.  Go ahead and connect with them.

As time goes by, you’ll become much more adept at making small talk with people beyond asking them their name, occupation, and hometown.  And the more comfortable you get with that, the easier it will be to converse and eventually establish comfort with the women you meet.  And it will be more natural.

Now get out there and do some talking!

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Not to mention that for most women, who are more emotional in nature, it’s crucial to have a spark for any relationship to work.  Sure, women can do strictly physical relationships, but they typically must feel like there’s at least a dash of that “something more.”

If you don’t learn how to build trust and rapport with a good-looking girl, if you don’t learn to make a connection, your attempts to sexually escalate will at the very least fall flat on their face and at the worst leave you looking like a creep.

Here are some tips for helping you with comfort-building if this is an area you’re stuck on.

1)  Avoid the “Everyday Questions”

One of the first lessons in building proper comfort is to avoid (like the plague) those everyday questions that people ask each other just to pass the time or make an excuse for idle chatter.

You know the ones I’m talking about…”How are you doing today?”  “Where are you from?”  “What do you do for a living?”  “What are you studying?”

Sure, there’s a time and place for questions like this, but asking them right when you meet someone is not going to endear them to you and make them intrigued to talk with you more.  They hear this from everyone else all day, most of whom don’t really care about the answer.

It doesn’t inspire.  It doesn’t connect.

So learn how to be more creative in your conversations with people.  Learn to talk about extremely trivial (but fun) things or to talk about more meaningful, emotional subjects.

2)  Show Interest in Her Most Insignificant Accomplishments

Some people can be quite boring to talk to and may not have the most interesting things to say – especially when you first meet them.  Then again, some women are quite interesting, but us men feel we need to impress them, so we spend a lot of time highlighting our own great experiences and qualities without stopping to acknowledge the things they’ve mentioned.

Have you ever heard it said that everyone’s favorite subject is themselves?  Imagine this world as a place where everyone walks around so self-interested that we sit there and talk to each other about ourselves without ever acknowledging one another’s stories (listen to the typical conversation and this isn’t far from the truth).

So ignore yourself for a minute.  It’s fine to let slip your more interesting tidbits, sometimes, but think of it as hinting at them rather than talking about them.  Remain somewhat mysterious and don’t tell her everything about herself.

Congratulate her on her story instead, no matter how much “cooler” yours might be.  Ask her questions about it.  She’s giving you something to talk about, so capitalize on that.

3)  Learn to Establish Common Ground With Just About Everything

The true art of comfort is realizing that we all have common ground and it’s quite possible to make a connection with just about anyone if you think about it.  She comes from a Mexican family and you just happen to love Mexican Food.  She went to school at UC Davis and so did your best friend – in fact, you visited him there before.  You both want to travel someday.  You both love Seinfeld.

Sure, sometimes we find even stronger connections with the people we meet, and that’s great, but you don’t have to be soul mates to establish rapport.  You just have to be able to find something to talk about with and agree on.

It most certainly isn’t rocket science.

4)  Don’t Be So Negative

While it’s important to learn how to converse about just about anything, do not get the idea in your head that your problems make good grounds for meaningful conversation with someone you just met.  Bad, bad, bad.  All you’re doing is building a negative connotation in her mind about you, and that, my friend, is the opposite of comfortable.  It doesn’t feel nice, and it doesn’t make her want to spend more time around you.

A few dashes of cynicism are typically appreciated, but only if they’re done in a friendly, humorous, and good-natured manner.  Don’t be the type of man who takes the world too seriously, either in your own life or your interactions with others.

5)  Don’t Get Too Comfortable

It’s definitely possible to get too comfortable.  Don’t do that unless you want to be her new best buddy, and I’m guessing that the last thing you want is another woman telling you she just wants to be your friend.

So where does the line get crossed between healthy rapport and becoming nothing more than a friend?

Well, first off, keep the conversation interesting by breaking rapport from time to time.  The best way to do this right is by being a little bit flirty and/or challenging her from time to time.

Also, remember that comfort is only one part of a successful interaction with a woman you’ve just met.  It’s a transition stage.  Ultimately, you’ve got to move it past the comfort stage and into the next level, which means sexual escalation.

If you never sexually escalate, you deserve to just be her friend because that’s what you’re acting like.

In a nightclub environment, if you’ve been talking with her for half an hour already, you absolutely need to push things to the next level.  Of course, this varies in other situations and is ultimately determined by each unique situation, but you’ll get a feel for it over time.
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Metagame – PUA Summit, 2008

Adam Lyons:

It’s not about funny routines or magic tricks, it’s not about over-complicating things
by thinking about what you’re doing. It’s about surrounding yourself with women
and getting them to invest and to chase you and be after you because you are in.
There are millions of men out there getting laid right now, everyone apart from
people in his room.

So what we’re going to do is fix that and we’re going to start to question and
understand what game is.

Here’s a question; I love asking this one. I love asking this one to the best of the best
PUAs in the world. How long have you been in game? Some, 2 years, 3 years; I know
a dude who’s been in the game 10 years – 10 years and he still runs around with a
little plastic fish asking girls if he can read their fortune for them – 10 years.

Here’s a question for you: What is attraction? What is it? Hardly any of them
ever answer. I have some people who reply, “It’s value.” I have some people who
reply, “It’s when a girl wants you.” I have some people who reply, “it’s about getting
laid.” That doesn’t help. That doesn’t give us any kind of understanding about what
attraction is. Honestly, I haven’t written down a definition. I haven’t written one
down because I don’t feel I should because I’m not qualified to do that.

I don’t want to be here like some expert. Just like I did with preselection, I don’t
want to tell you what I’ve discovered. I want to explain things in a way that you will
learnt it and see that it’s real, and to move your way from being weird pick up gurus
wondering what the next best opener is or freaking girls out in bars, and instead
being very, very normal and actually understanding what you’re trying to achieve.

So I’ve got a bit of an analogy for you to help you understand women and more
importantly, what attraction is as a concept – the concept of attraction. I’m gonna
talk about cars. We’re going to talk about cars because cars are easy; cars we
understand. Turning on a woman is a complicated process that takes 7 stages of
escalation and stuff like that, apparently. Turning on a car, you slip in your key and
twist it. If we could turn on a girl by just slipping in our key and twisting it, we’d
have a lot of happy men in the world and a lot of very satisfied women.

I want you to imagine that you take this car and think of the best car you could
possibly ever get. I want you to think of your dream car, your ideal car. I want
everybody to take a moment and just think of that. And don’t think of some scummy
little car, think of the best car you could possibly obtain. Think of a Lamborghini or a
Ferrari, something that you couldn’t possibly afford straight away.

Now I want you to imagine that you decide that you’re going to get this car no
matter what it takes. So you now append the next 10 to 15 years saving up every
penny to buy this car. You have no time for your friends. You can’t go out socializing
because you need a second job to pay for this car. Every minute, every working hour
of the day is spent getting you this car because you know that when you get this car,
you’re going to get laid.

So you get this car, the perfect car. 15 years later, you go into the shop to buy it. Is
everyone with me so far? So you go into the shop, you buy the car. There’s no twist
to this, you get the car. You’re sitting in it, you’ve got that nice leather interior; it’s
go the built-in I-home for your iPod and your laptop thing; it’s all pimped out, it’s
awesome. You’re driving home…

You finally pull up outside your house – and there outside your house is another
one. Its exactly the same. You’ve won it in a competition; great. You entered it a
week earlier. You guys won’t get this reference but in England… Maybe you’re in
L.A.; you wait for a train, you wait for ages and then two come along at once. It’s the
same as this. You wait for ages, you finally got the car and you get two.

Petrol prices, tax, road tax… there’s no point keeping both. You’ve got to sell one
of the cars. Which car do you think you would sell? Would you believe that I’ve
given this talk now for an entire year since I first worked this out and thousands of
students I’ve asked, everybody says the one you’ve won – why? Why do we all give
the same answer? Why is there a difference between the two cars?

Did you know that when you’re selling it the person buying the car would rather
have the one you’ve won. Do you know why they’d rather have that one? Because
you haven’t driven it. It doesn’t have your coffee stain on it; everybody wants to get
rid of the one they’ve won – why? It’s because the one they’ve bought is represented
by so much more. No one else can see that but you. That additional investment is
your emotion, your time, the things you don’t get back. More importantly, it’s your
investment – yours! You invested in it and no one else sees the difference.

If I took those two cars and showed someone else, they wouldn’t see it but you do.
You prefer that car. Could we say you’re attracted to that car out of the two of them?

Could we say if there’s two cars and they’re exactly the same but one of them you’re
attracted it and one you’re not, the one you’re attracted to is the one you’ve put
investment in. Does that make sense?

So could we sum up game as: if you can make her invest, she’s gonna be attracted to
you. Do we agree? If she chases you, you’re gonna get her because she’s gonna want
you; because the more she works to get you, the more attracted she is to you. The
harder she works to get you, the more she wants you. It’s the same as the car. It’s a
no-brainer! I don’t need any complicated table. The harder she works to chase me,
the more I’m gonna get her. And every game, all the method, everything is designed
around getting them to chase you. That is the factor; that is it right there.

We know that thanks to Benedict Jones and preselection, we know that is a good
catalyst to get things triggered. When they see you with other girls, they’re already
thinking about you because they’re thinking you’re slightly more attractive. They’re
wondering why. That social value that Savoy spoke about – they start to chase; just
a little bit, not much. They’re not gonna sleep with you just because you’re popular
but there’s a little bit and we can take that and make them invest further.

I have some bad news for you. I want you now to imagine your perfect 10; your ideal
girl. Has everyone done that? The perfect woman; the one you’re going to settle
down with or at least you’re going to bang tonight. The prefect girl…

Right now is she in a conference hall in a hotel somewhere in L.A. or in Kentucky
(because apparently, it’s a good place to go to learn about pick up) learning how to
pull you? It took a while for everyone to think about it. Maybe… no. No, she’s not.
She really isn’t. So, on the investment scale-ometer, who’s investing more, you or
her?

Sorry, guys; it is an absolute waste of time you being here (No, I’m kidding). It’s
a pointless waste. Everything we do to try and obtain this girl is pointless. The
more you work at it, the less chance you’ve got of getting her. Any dude who is gonna sit
there and spend hours running routine after routine after routine on this girl, it’s a
pointless waste of time because he’s actually investing in her and until she starts to
invest back, it’s not gonna happen. It’s not gonna happen because he has no value to
her. She sees some cool dude walk in the bar, let’s say Brad Pitt, she’s gonna go, “See
you later entertainment dude with your magic tricks and I do like that cube game
or whatever – but here’s Brad Pitt!” And off she goes. Damn it! All that work for
nothing. You should see the other ones I memorized.

No, it doesn’t work. You need the girl to be investing in you. You’re going to need

that. She has to start putting that in. So what we need is ways of making her chase.
We’ve spoken about preselection; yes, we can get them to start investing that way
but we’ve go to build it up and take it further. I do not have time to take you through
everything that I want to teach. It sucks. I would love to, I’m just not allowed. I
would love to spend about 3 hours which is what it takes me to teach somebody
almost everything that they’re going to need to know to start to get a girl to invest
and after that, you can make it up yourself.

So what I am instead gonna do is dispel some myths and give you guys hopefully
some different ways of doing it that you may not have seen before. One of the first
things I want to start out talking about as a way of getting a girl to invest and a way
of building preselection when maybe you don’t know two sexy pivots that will help
game for you, is the metagame.

The metagame is a concept I came up with recently (I say recently; it’s about a year
ago now). I based it on a little card game called Magic the Gathering. Yes, I am geek.
The idea of the metagame is that instead of playing the same game as everybody
else, you think about what game they’re gonna play and then cheat by creating a set
of cards that will destroy their game. Essentially, you’re sort of reading what they’re
going to do because that’s the best way of playing and then you’re just gonna build
something to completely destroy that.

The metagame does the same thing in pick up. What you do is analyze what
everybody else does in game and then you play a much bigger picture and destroy
it. One of the reasons I like to think I’m seen as being so good at game is because I
know how to out-PUA PUAs. And I’ve kept the secret for you.

I’ve learned some methods and some tricks I don’t teach my boot camps on how to
screw somebody else up when they’re in set without looking like I’m doing it. I don’t
need to AMOG. I can actually destroy them by gaming a room while they’re gaming
sets. What happens is the poor dude runs around thinking he’s having a bad night
and can’t understand why when I’ve created the whole thing so I can walk out with
the hottest chick. And I thought I would talk about it today because it’s a little bit
different and I’ve go some new stuff that I can work on myself so you guys can have
this one and play with it. – I’m kidding.

The Metagame – this is not for beginners. If you’re a beginner, you’re not gonna
understand it because it breaks down some very fundamental rules of game. One
of the first things, the metagame doesn’t work if you have approach anxiety – it
doesn’t; because the concept of the metagame is building up preselection and social
proof and gaming everyone in the room. If you can approach two sets, forget about because you’re going to need to approach everyone in the bloody room.

The first rule that I’m gonna break, the first thing that I’m gonna say to shock the
community: the 3-secod rule is shit. There we go, I’ve said it. Why is it shit? It’s good
to help you over AA, it’s bad when it comes to getting girls. I’m gonna give you a
brief demonstration. I’m going to do it with the chairs rather than using people so
here we are.

Here we have (use your imagination) two incredibly hot, beautiful women. Here we
have a mixed set. This can be two okay girls and their boyfriends… three ugs… the
door to the venue. Okay, watch this.

Open the door… standing inside the club. Ugs, they’re invisible. No one wants to see
ugs anyway. Someone said to me once, “Adam, I can’t believe it. There’s like, no hot
chicks in this place.” I was like, “Yeah there are, the place is full hot of chicks. No ugly
girls at all.” He’s like, “Are you kidding me? The place is full of ugly chicks. There’s
only like, three hot ones.” I said, “I don’t know, I only see the hot ones, I don’t see
anyone else.” He said, “What do you mean?” I said, “I don’t look at ugly chicks.”

So there’s 3 ugly chicks, there’s 2 okay, two boyfriends and two hot chicks, okay?
The venue’s bigger but whatever. You get the idea. I’m gonna walk in. 3- second
rule… ah, chicks! Time to approach… I’m gay.

How about this one: “Do you know where the toilets are?” That way they’ll never get
me. I’ve ignored everyone else in the room to ask them where the toilets are. Let’s
try another one, how about this one: I’m gonna go under the radar, indirect. “Who
lies more…” What? Come on! They know! They know, you’ve ignore everyone else in
the room. Think of the bigger picture. They’re not stupid. You’ve walked in and gone
straight to the two hottest chicks in the room and you haven’t gone direct. If you’re
gonna do that, go direct because everything you’re sub-communicating is direct.

You walk up to them and go, “Hey, you know what? I have to admit I’ve only just
walked in the bar; you are the two hottest chicks in the room. I think you’re very
interesting and I’d like to get to know you and I hope you’ve got something going on
beyond just your looks.” If you’re gonna go direct, because your body language is all
direct, you don’t have an option.

No – the metagame says something a little bit different. Instead what we’re going
to do is we’re going to go in and we’re going to open the three ugly chicks. We’re
gonna talk to them and vibe with them and have some fun but we’re not gonna stay
for very long because then we’re going to bounce into the mixed set. We’re gonna
open them and we’re gonna sit and talk to them. We’re not gonna say anything particularly fancy or particularly special, we’re just gonna vibe with them and get talking to them. Feel free to use routines; feel free to download free stuff off of other
people’s websites and use it; create your own content – why not? Did you know most
naturals use structured game? Would you believe me if I told you this? What most
naturals do is just repeat stories they know have worked in the past for themselves.
They’re almost as structured as a PUA, except they didn’t download theirs off of
websites, they actually came up with it based on their own life which is something I
suggest you all do.

So you’re talking to these guys and you’re ignoring the hot chicks! We’re not talking
to them – on purpose. Now in an ideal world what would happen is a PUA would
go and hit on them. Why would that be ideal? Because PUAs talk forever, 40, 50
minutes of conversation just talking at these girls. They’re not going anywhere. They
can’t go to another venue, no one else is hitting on them; PUAs are good at dealing
with AMOGS. I can just ignore the hot chicks and let them be occupied by the PUA
running his game. Meanwhile, I’m vibing with the whole room. What am I doing?
Savoy spoke about this earlier. I’m building up my social proof. I’m also getting
preselected. The ugly chicks fancy me; they’re smiling at me

These two hot chicks, I know what they’re thinking. I know because I’ve hung
around so many hot chicks that I understand that what they’re thinking is, “Why
is that guy going for those ugly chicks? Look, they’re all over him.” They start
questioning this. If you don’t believe me, ask then next hot chick you see; that’s how
they think. They want to know why we’re not talking to them. We can then mis-
calibrate the PUA’s game.

This is very naughty… It’s very, very naughty. I want you to imagine we have a
hot chick looking in this direction – logistics is important for this – and PUA is
looking at the hot chick, probably at an angle of 45 degrees so he doesn’t tell her
he fancies her… whatever. We’ve vibed with the whole room; we step up behind
the PUA where he can’t see us and we’re going to communicate to the girls using
an advanced form of communication which girls call ‘girl code’. Neil Strauss spoke
about it. All I do is I look at the girl behind the guy’ shoulder where he can’t see me
then I’ll look at the guy, look at the girl, look at the guy, look at the girl and then go…
(Thumbs up sigh)

Now unbeknownst to the poor PUA, I have just made him available and he’s going to
continue running his game, trying to prove that he’s not interested in her when other
people in the room have already shown they know he’s hitting on her. She will smile,
now knowing that he’s interested. We’ve just mis-calibrated his game and ruined all
chances he had of gaming her. He won’t realize his game’s mis- calibrated because he won’t have seen me; so he won’t understand what’s wrong with his game today and why suddenly his routines aren’t working.

What he actually has to do is start getting very, very distant and stop gaming her but
of course he wont because most PUAs are incredibly reactive and seek validation, so
he will just try gaming her harder, which is the exact opposite of what he should be
doing. He’ll keep her occupied, I’ll go back round, I’ll be vibing with the room, I’ll be
having some fun; not trying to game anyone, not trying to do anything, just getting
girls to smile at me and get interested. At the very end of this, I’m going to teach you
a quick trick routine you can use to build preselection if you want. Please don’t just
all start using it. Instead understand why it works and create your own – and I mean
that sincerely.

So the guys in set; after a while, it might not work anymore. After a while he gives
up; another dude comes along – perfect. Talking to the other girls again, I’m not
talking to them. They’re still wondering in their head why I’m not really getting
involved. I then lean over to the girl and I say, whisper in her ear, “You know what?
I think I preferred your previous boyfriend” and walk off. Thank you, Mr. available
#2. He’s out of it as well, and we have single handedly destroyed the two PUAs in the
room who are trying to game her.

Now she starts wondering who I am and why are all these women all over me? And
why aren’t I hitting on her? So she starts to invest. It is highly likely that she will
open me. I’ve done sets with students; students have seen me do sets where I get
opened and closed and the students are like, “That’s what I want! I don’t want to
approach, I want to be approached. I don’t want to ask for their phone number, I
want them to give me their card and say, ‘please call me!’” That’s what they want.
And you do that by becoming attractive; be having an attractive lifestyle.

Remember the picture of me earlier? See how I look now; notice that I don’t look
the same. Do you know why? I asked a girl to change my look. I work out every
day; I didn’t used to, I used to heat 12 Krispy Kremes a week! Now I work out every
day. I started some mixed martial arts and Jackson’s going to teach me some more
during the week because I want to get bigger and tougher and better-looking. Why?
Because these are all parts of game – You can’t just look at one thing and go, I’m
going to memorize every routine I have and now I’m going to get every girl I want;
it doesn’t work that way – become normal! Bloody hell, how am I going to get the
whole community normal? There’s a lot of you…

So the girl comes in, she’s interested. At this point, we’re going to talk about the only
thing that’s worth talking about in game. It’s something that me and Mr. M sat down and discussed. It’s something that Savoy obviously understands the importance of – qualification. But now let me do this; let me piss off the world again. What is
qualification? If it’s so important, what is it? We’ve heard why you need to do it but what is it?

Do you know who knew what qualification was? Thorndike; do you know who he
is? He’s a psychologist from the 1920s, passed away in 1949 – check it up online. He
discovered something called Operant Conditioning, a form of learning. One of the
most powerful forms of learning that is still used today. The concept of rewarding
behavior we like and punishing behavior we don’t like, which teaches someone
to adapt and behave in the way that we like. Wow, have you thought of how that
sounds in game, being able to adapt someone’s behavior to something we like?

Operant Conditioning; it’s real, Wikipedia it. And it’s not something I wrote,
Thorndike wrote it but it’s probably not in Wikipedia because he died in 1949…
whatever, you understand.

So let’s think of this operant conditioning. How does it work in qualification? Well,
let’s first understand hat qualification is. Again, we’re going to use another analogy.
I want you to imagine that instead of myself up here, I have Bill Gates. Did you know
that Bill Gates doesn’t often start his talks with, “This morning I made this many
billions of dollars and tomorrow afternoon I hope to make this many billions of
dollars, and I’m great. Everything about me is great. I have a nice car. I do really,
really well in life… I’m fabulous, I’m Bill. I am Microsoft, by the way.” He doesn’t
talk like that. Why, because he would be qualifying himself to others. He would be
proving himself.

Have you ever wondered why there is an anomaly between girls saying, “You have a
nice car but it doesn’t impress me” and yet girls go, “Oh my God, look at that car, it’s
so nice!” Why can’t we make them match? Girls like nice cars but they don’t like guys
with nice cars but the only want a guy who’s got a nice car – what?! Let me explain
that to you. They don’t want you to shove the car down their throat…. their throats
aren’t that big, trust me.

The point is, the car, they don’t want to be shown it. If you’re saying, “Hey look, I’ve
got a nice Porsche” what you’re actually saying is, “I’ve spent the last 10 years of
my life saving up for a Porsche because I’m hoping it will get me laid.” Someone that
can afford a nice Porsche doesn’t need to show it off – it’s just their car. Does that
make sense? I’m not showing it off; I’m not qualifying myself or attempting to prove
myself to someone to impress them. Instead, I’m getting them – or I should be getting
them to impress me.

From a point of view of investment, if I’m impressing somebody, what am I doing? Investing.
And if they’re impressing me what are they doing? Investing. Exactly – so we want them to
invest in us. We want them to put the effort in. Qualification is a means to do this.
We come across as somebody who is judging and questioning others, rather than
trying to prove ourselves. Instead of saying to her, “Hey you know what, I’ve got
this new job; I’m doing really, really well, I’m making a lot of money”, you say, “So
what have you been up to recently? Because someone of high value doesn’t need
to prove himself to you. Your teacher doesn’t start by explaining to you the latest
thing they’ve done and worked out, instead they ask you whether you’ve done
tour homework and whether you’ve done it correctly because they’re qualifying
you, they’re the one in authority. And that’s what you need to do. You need to start
qualifying them and getting them to invest.

Something that I love is negging, right? Everyone’s like, “Oh, I saw a girl, I negged
her three times and then she sucked my dick…” No – negging isn’t that powerful but
it does have a use. The question is when do we use it? Let’s think back to Thorndike
back in the 1920s. When should we use negging, guys?

Yes! I love this, you guys understand, you’re going to get laid. Yes, it’s to punish
bad behavior. You neg when you don’t like their behavior. That’s why opening a
hot chick with a neg sometimes works – because you’re predicting that her initial
behavior is going to be bad because you’re opening her; so you neg her first. She
responds to that by trying to prove against it or fight against it. This is what negging
is used for.

Now I’m going to talk about a guy that’s a really good friend of mine that I’ve seen
developing game. Braddock from Mystery Method, I’m gonna talk about him. He
gave me a great example and he says never, ever punish compliance and there’s
a reason why. He was talking to this incredibly hot model and he said to her this
qualifying question: “So, tell me something interesting about yourself, something
beside your looks.” She looks at him and she goes, “I have a car.” Great… the most
interesting thing she could think about herself is she has a car.

Do you have any idea how many insults would roll off the tongue for that? How easy
it would be to neg her to the ground? How many wannabe PUAs and people new to
this would go, “Ah, I can neg her here!” But that would be a bad thing to do; because
that is genuinely the most interesting thing she can think about to tell you. That has
to be rewarded because she qualified herself to you, and that’s good behavior. Don’t
neg her for that. Instead you have to go, “Cars are nice.”

You gotta reward it guys, you’ve got to build that up. If she said to you, “Why should I tell you?” then we’re gonna neg her. Then you’re gonna be like, “Oh, really! I knewit; hot model, nothing in interesting to say about yourself.” Neg her back, teach
her the behavior is wrong but if we leave it on that what we’re going to create is a
negative cycle. You’ve heard of this before, when you end up in a negging match –
that’s no good. How do we get out of that? We get out of that by giving her another
qualifier but a smaller one. If she’s not gonna tell us something interesting about
herself, you’re going to be like, “Oh, I knew it; there’s nothing interesting about you
– no, I’m kidding. What’ve you done this week? Tell me something fun you’ve done
this week? What do you do for fun when you’re not working?”

You give her another way out so she thinks about it and she says, “Okay, this week I
went out to a model party with some model, Claudia Schiffer, whoever… I’m so out
of touch. I’ll get a slap from my girlfriend later for not knowing.

She then looks at this and she smiles and she laughs and she tells you and she
starts performing in the way you want. She starts qualifying herself to you which is
actually just investing.. And the more she invests, the more she’s attracted to you.
And we continue the investment, we continue her doing things for us. The more she
invests, the more she wants us. And yes, it’s okay to invest back, just try and make
sure she’s investing more. Why do we want her to invest more? So she keeps getting
attracted to you.

It’s that easy. I know a lot of people don’t believe me but it’s that easy. That’s why I
showed the video. That’s why I constantly show videos. It’s bloody easy. I think any
PUA that’s out there teaching should a) seriously understand the psychology behind
why they’re doing it and why it works and b) you should be able to demonstrate it
and do it.

That’s why last year when I came up I was quite scared. I didn’t feel that I deserved
to be up there. I still don’t feel that I deserve to be here but I do feel that I’ve put in
bloody long groundwork. You won’t believe the stuff I’m working n now. You won’t
believe the books I’ve had to source on psychology s you guys don’t have to. You do
not need to read through and understand infidelity and male cuckolding and the
defenses against the female, you don’t need to read these books – I’m reading them
for you.

I’m going to read them and cut them down and understand the important
aspects t help us. But I need you guys to do me a favor. I’m going to go back for a
second. I need you guys to understand that when you make this work with great
power comes great responsibility. That’s a very important phrase said by a top
philosopher, Uncle Ben. But it’s true; when you understand how this works and you’re capable of doing things like this, don’t lie to the girls.

Somebody said to me today, do you tell the girl you’re a pick up artist? Yes, I do.
Why? Because I don’t want to lie; that’s not what we’re about here. We’re not
about lying. We’re not about hurting girls. We’re about telling them the truth, being
comfortable enough to step away.

Part of qualification is understanding that if they don’t jump through the hoop, if
they don’t do what you want then step away, find another one. There are millions
of girls. We have options. If you see a girl with a boyfriend, think about it but maybe
leave them alone. Once upon a time, you were that guy. Once upon a time, you were
in there in a relationship for two or three years with this girl. Some other dude came
along, she cheated on you one night and now every time you look at her you feel
bad. Every time you look at her you remember that situation and you can’t be with
her anymore because it hurts you so much. Think about that; think about what
you’re putting on other people. If you’ve got options then use them.

What I’m teaching you today works. It works not because it’s my method but
because it’s real psychologically proven facts. And it breaks down why everybody’s
method works. Al I’ve done is learnt it and understood it so that you guys can go
out and understand it rather than sort of flapping around like useless eels not
understanding what you’re doing. This is why it works.

Your aim in every interaction should be to get the girl to invest in you and a very
good way of doing it is preselection. There are other ways; we’ll talk about that in a
second.

All the stuff I’m talking about, I can see people writing it down, I can see people
thinking, “Oh, I wish I’d brought pen and paper.” All my stuff is actually available
from AFC Adam.com. If you go there, there’s like a free e-book free articles, you guys
may or may not know this, I’m a regular writer for Askmen.com was well. If you go
to Askmen.com on a Saturday on the columnist for the UK site, I write a load of how-
to’s and all of this stuff is free. Just take it, it’s all free. Go onto You Tube, type me
name in, there’s free demos. I’ve just done one for PUAtraining.com. I just did a 15-
minute direct day game breakdown and it was live. You can watch the whole pick up
live then you can watch the breakdown afterwards. It’s live and it’s free.

Please go and download it. Why because I honestly think that every single guy out
there should be able to get laid and I don’t think it should be based on how much
money you have in your pocket. I think you should go out there and get laid. Anyone
that is interested in paying for it and feels that they want a coach, that’s different, we can talk about it but genuinely, go out there and get this shit for free, go out there and sort your lives out.

I’m going to finish up, I’m going to do one more example of how the set works
because I like doing these and they make me laugh. I’m going to give you a little bit
how you can generate preselection with a quick routine on the middle of it. So to
refresh: 2 hot chicks. 2 okay girls with their boyfriends, they’re going alright, 3 Ugs.
What do we do? 30-second rule; we don’t do that, instead we start talking to the
girls here; “Hey the toilets over here” Thank you very much; go to the toilet, come
back, we start talking, maybe get chatting to the dude; “Hey you guys, awesome to
see you” yada, yada yada.

PUA comes in. Awesome, he’s occupied the set first. In the background we continue
building up the metagame, chatting to these girls, chatting to the bouncer and the bar
staff. maybe even setting up a party for a couple of week’s time, we’re going to come
back with all these people that we’ve just added to our social circle, which means
next time we come in, we come in with three ugly chicks, two okay chicks and a
couple of dudes but still we’ve got a good ratio, we’re doing well.

We go back in, the PUA’s doing incredibly well here, let’s bow him out. Look at the girl
and go, “You’re getting in!” and step away. The girl’s like, “ha-ha, that’s so funny!”
Go back in, bounce with everybody, start having fun. No we really want her to see
us with some serious preselection. What we do is, another hot chick walks into the
bar. We lean back on a stool. We look at the hot chick and say, “Hey you know, what? I
find that a lot of hot chicks have nothing interesting to say about themselves. Tell me
three interesting things about yourself.”

The girl starts talking “I was a model, I was on The Hills, and you won’t believe it. If
you watch that episode, I’m in the background.” You sit there looking bored out of
your brain. Look at the girl, let her see you being bored and just go (Looks bores).
Lean over to the girl and go, “You know what, I think I preferred your previous
boyfriend.”

Get back to the previous girl, she’s chewing your ear off. Wait until the hot girl’s
walked by you. Reach out and go, “One minute… Hi, excuse me. Please, you have to
help me. This girl has been chewing my ear off all night, I really need a hand” We’ve
built up preselection, we haven’t needed to game her; she’s happy to chat.

By now we could fuck any of the three girls if we wanted to because there ugly and
probably desperate. They’ve walked into a bar with no dudes, you know they’re not
getting laid. We’ve got the two okay chicks with their boyfriends. We’ve left them alone. With great power comes great responsibility. If you want to be Spiderman, don’t touch them!

Finally we’re talking to the hot chick. We’ve left the other crazy hot chick off on her
own. She probably had a boyfriend anyway who’s big and would have beaten us up.
We’re chatting to the target, we start qualifying her – why? Qualifying her will make
her start investing in us. She’s already attracted to us because of the social proof and
everything we’ve already built up.

She gets talking to you, you start qualifying her. “Tell us three interesting things
about yourself. What do you do for fun? If you could take me anywhere in the world
where would you go? What do you do for a living? What did you want to do when
you were 5? Why are you not doing that? Are you somebody that gives up your aims
and ambitions that easily?” “No, I’m not I I do this, that and the other.” She keeps
qualifying herself. She tries harder and harder and harder.

You can qualify somebody so high it’s incredible. I’ve tested it myself to see just
how extreme you can go. So in this example, I was talking to this girl. And with
qualification, they can either answer or not – Thorndike’s law in effect: reward,
punish. I like to assume an answer and then give them two options that aren’t related
to it.

So I was talking to this girl and it’s coming to the end of the night, I’d ran the rest
of my game as usual and I’m leaning up against the wall. She looks at me and I
say, “Listen; you’re cute. I like you but I don’t know if I’m going t take you home.
because there’s one more question I need from you and I’m going to need an honest
answer. You’re going to get one word to reply and if you get it wrong, I’m gonna go
with the crazy chick because she’s easy and hot. Although I don’t really want her
because she’s crazy, we’re going to have all sorts of issues the next day with her
freaking out and whatever. I want you to think very carefully. You’re going to get
one answer to this.” And she’s like, “Okay, okay, okay.” “Spit or swallow. Think about
it. She looks at me she’s like, “Hmm… hmm… swallow?” “Good girl, let’s go home.”

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