Stop Your Brain From Cockblocking!

Hey man,

What is the best way to strike up a conversation with a woman?


That’s the best way.

If you are thinking too much before you do it, then your approach will simply not be as good as if you just walked up and said something earlier. Here is why:

When you see a girl, your brain makes several decisions and some of them are faster than others.

Fast Decisions:

Do I find her face attractive?
Do I find her body attractive?
Do I want to sleep with her?
Do I want to talk to her?

Slow Decisions:

Should I approach on her left or right?
Does she have a boyfriend? Is he here?
Is she here alone?
Who is going to see me if I get rejected?
What am I going to say to her?
What am I going to say to her?
What am I going to say to her?

Talking to a woman should not be that scary. It should not make you think that hard. If instead of thinking those things, you make your fast decisions and walk up and say ANYTHING to her, you will be much better at succeeding.

Yes, approaching a certain way will help make things go smoother.
Yes, if she has a boyfriend things could go sour.
Yes, if you are clever with your opening words, she will warm up to you faster.


Using the time before you talk to a girl to think of those things is signing you up for failure.

These are things you work for before you go talk to girls, not while you are talking to them. If you want to work on your posture, do it at home so much you don’t have to think about it anymore.

If you are worried about her having a boyfriend, just stop. You never know what is going to happen so if you are worried about it, stop being worried about it.

Waiting for an ideal time is just an excuse to not talk to her.

If you are thinking of things to say to a girl, you should have done that at home. Work on your own lines and repeat them and practice some canned openers. Yes canned openers.

Natural game works better but if you are thinking of what to say, have canned openers you always use so you have something to fall back on.

If you missed out on it last time, here is the link I showed earlier in the week:

It’s 101 Ways to Break the Ice. I compiled the best things to say to break the ice with a girl. After reading it, it will keep you out of your head before you talk to girl. You will be able to open more girls faster which will improve your game much faster.

If you can’t think of anything to say, just keep walking to her. If you still can’t think of anything to say, you just use one of my lines I give you and trust it will land well. It will.

Again, check that out here:

Now practice turning off your slow decisions. Speed everything up. If you see a cute girl, stop thinking, start approaching. That is how to get good fast. Stop thinking so much.

Do your work at home and when you go out, leave your work at home. Everything you’ve worked on should come natural at that point that you don’t need to think about it. You don’t want to think about it.

It’s like thinking about your feet moving up the stairs. If you think about every muscle in your leg walking up the stairs and you focus on each one trying as hard as you can not to trip up the stairs. Your odds of tripping are much higher then.

Same with game. If you are thinking about what you are doing, your odds of messing up are higher.

Stop thinking about what you are doing and just enjoy the interaction, your odds of getting the girl are higher.

Cheers mate,





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