I’m walking down the street this morning in Santa Monica heading to the American Film Market to meet with a film company I’m talking to about a show I’m pitching. When all of a sudden I notice a cute girl walking in the same direction.
She’s got short black hair with dark red highlights, long legs that are covered by her patterned tights and a short mini-skirt.
And I’m wondering to myself, “should I talk to this girl?” I mean. It’s not like I’m single.
Heck, I get laid a few times a day. I don’t need to bother talking to this girl. It would be a lot easier to just walk by, keep listening to my Pandora station and head on to my meeting.
But I remember something.
I’ve got balls.
And I like them.
I approach her, not because I want to get laid, not because I want a girlfriend. I approach her because that’s where my balls come from, and I don’t want them to go away.
The more you practice the better you get at approaching and talking to girls. Once I started talking to her, the conversation flowed easily, we walked for about 5 minutes before we “realized” we were both going to the same place. (She “realized.” I knew it for a fact, as she was too cute to just be randomly walking in the same direction as an international film market.)
The three things I wanted to make you aware of are:
1) It turns out this girl works at the exact company I had scheduled a meeting with. Coincidence or not, it wouldn’t have happened if I didn’t approach. My 10 minute meeting became a two hour one with the CEO as a result of the girl talking me up.
2) I approach because I want to maintain my skill of approaching, not to get a girl. In this way I’m completely outcome independent. I approach for the sake of approaching.
3) By repeatedly doing that which scares others, I maintain my confidence (testicles) and ensure I’ll never be afraid to meet a girl (or potential business client) again.
Start approaching. And if you are afraid of approaching due to wondering how to keep the conversation going once you start, watch this video