How a Stripper Gave Me Her Wages

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Heya man,

I’m going to share a tip with you today that makes picking up strippers as easy as watching Breaking Bad.

Last night I was training a private client of mine in Austin, who wanted to learn how to pick up professional exotic dancers (strippers).

It’s not that he wants to date one. He just wondered if it was possible.

I told him, not only is it possible, but it’s easy. I then went on to hold down a conversation with the hottest girl in the club (I let him choose the girl he wanted me to talk to).

I had her desperately trying to work out what I do for a living. She was so desperate to work it out that she had forgotten to offer to give me a dance.

If you don’t know how it works, strippers pay to work in the club, so every song that goes by where she isn’t dancing for you, she’s losing money.

But she was so desperate to learn what I did for a living, she didn’t care. She was throwing herself at me, hitting me, hating on me for not telling her.

Eventually I gave her a chance.

Adam: I’ll give you a clue for every dollar you gave me.

She throws a dollar at me, and then another and another. Before I know it this chick was making it rain, all over me. (Ok maybe not that much, but she was paying me from the money she’d made that night.)

The student was shocked. He wanted to know the trick.

So I told him. The key to getting any kind of mercenary girl is to use conversation that appeals to the real girl, not the “working girl.”

Think about it, if you ask a stripper what she does for fun, she’ll say… I dance.

Ask her what she wants to do, she’ll say … Dance for you.

She has a bunch of pre-set answers for the common questions she gets asked. And it’s her stripper personality that’s replying. She knows her best chance to get money out of you is to keep you on task.

But…

If you can get her to reply as her real self, she won’t think to ask you for a dance.

Why?

Because her real self has other things to do like groceries, laundry, errands, and of course… Watching TV.

If you can engage her in a conversation that hits on things her real self thinks about she’ll never ask you for a dance.

It’s obvious when you think about it.  Do you like talking about work when you’re in a deep conversation about the latest episode of your favorite TV show?

No one does!

Once I told him this, he had girls sitting in his lap for ages without ever asking for a dance.
You can do exactly the same thing with bartenders, shot girls, strippers and escorts. All you’ve got to do is follow the simple pattern that all conversations follow.

You can learn the pattern by clicking on this link.

http://attractionexplained.com/how_to_keep_the_conversation_going/

Chat soon.

Adam

THIS Is the Reason I’m Good with Sexy Women

Heya man,

Today I’m going to tell you the exact reason why I’m good with women.

I have a quality that drives me.

It’s a quality that almost every single guy on the planet has. The difference is I have more of it.

I first realized I had this quality when I was sitting in a room of guys who were all students of seduction and dating, myself included. We were all just like you, looking to get better with women.

Picture this: it’s 3 o’clock in the morning and there are 5 of us guys sitting around a room after a night of going out and meeting women. Obviously none of us had met a girl that night and most of the guys were discussing heading home when I first realized I was different.

Adam: Why don’t we go out and hit an after hours spot.
Guy 1: Adam, it’s 3 am I’m tired. Fuck it, we’re all tired, let’s just head home.
Guy 2: Yeah man, it’s not like we’re gonna meet any girls that are single at this time anyway.
Adam: You’re all kidding me right?
Guy 1: No seriously, it’s late, we can head out again tomorrow.
Guy 3: Yeah, I’m heading home.
Adam: Don’t you guys wanna get laid?
Guy 3: Yeah of course, but we’re tired now. We can do it tomorrow.

And that’s when it hit me. They all wanted to get girls, but I wanted it more.

I wanted to get laid more than any of the other guys in the room. (Except maybe Guy 4 who came with me)

This is the quality I have.

I like sex.

I like it a lot.

Heck, I have sex before I get up in the morning, have it before I go to bed, and try to fit it in somewhere in the middle of the day.

On roadtrips, I’m the kind of guy that will pull over at a restroom off the freeway to fit a quickie in. I’m not just after girls

to satisfy my ego, or to have sex with them occasionally as I see fit.

I want women all the time, always. I love being with them, interacting with them and having sex with them. And it’s that drive that made me good. I was going out all the time because I wanted to have sex with beautiful women.

Ask yourself something.

Do you want to have sex? Like, a lot of sex? With lots of beautiful girls?

Then why not put the effort in to go and get it, because countless people have proved that it doesn’t take a lot of practice to actually start getting good at this, you just have to start go out there and do it.

How do you move a mountain?

One rock at a time.

You should start by learning how to keep conversations going, at least that way you won’t run out of things to say once you’re talking to her. Here’s a link to a video showing you how to do that.

Adam

 

Number 1 Most Important Aspect of Game

Hey man,

I’ve been reading email after email of people who picked up my book 101 Ways to Break the Ice and I’m so happy you were able to use those lines right away. I would argue that the most important thing you can do to make a strong interaction, is be able to start it.

If you can’t start an interaction, you will never know what could have been. So if you are one of those guys who have been going out the past few days using those techniques I talked about, perfect! I bet you noticed a big change in how your interactions went when you approached quickly.

If you have not been going out and striking up conversations or if you don’t intend to, you can stop reading now. The rest of this letter won’t do you any good…

For those of you still reading I have some new questions for you:

What do you do once you start a conversation with a girl?

My short answer for this is one simple word that you should get tattooed somewhere on your body that you will see it every day.

Listen.

There are hundreds of different transitions to use to tie thoughts together and keep a good flow going. But they come off as very strange and boring when you aren’t actually listening and responding to what a girl is saying.

To hold a girl’s attention is also extremely important for an interaction. I have several techniques I teach for this, but the simplest one is to use eye contact.

You know that fear that you have that women can read your thoughts? They can!

Okay, not actually, but they think they can. If you aren’t looking at her in the eyes, she can’t make that connection to read your thoughts. That might sound like a good thing, but if she doesn’t think she can read your thoughts, she can’t trust you.

You need a woman to trust you, and feel comfortable talking to you.

Comfort and Rapport.

Without those things, you’re flirting will backfire, your teasing will hurt her feelings, and she will want to leave.Those two things are the very backbone of any interaction.

If you knew nothing of game besides how to approach quickly and build comfort and rapport, you would be able to make a whole lot of friends in a very short amount of time. You’d also get very successful at networking for business and other opportunities but that’s not the focus of what I teach.

In the reverse, if you were very good at breaking rapport (teasing, negging, flirting etc.) and awesome at qualifying and sexually escalating, but you didn’t know how to build comfort and rapport, you would be very sad and unsuccessful.

Trying to build sexual tension with a girl who doesn’t trust you and feel comfortable with you will always end badly. If you are getting blown out when you go for the number, kiss, or even getting her facebook, its probably because you need to work on this part of your game right now.

Comfort and Rapport.

So this is the big step to polish up. If you master the ability to build comfort and rapport, the later steps are much easier to correct if they start going sour. If you can build up comfort and rapport then every time you start to lose it in the interaction, you just quickly go back down a step and build it back up again!

If this is something that you are trying to work on, I go into a lot more and details about it in my How to Keep the Conversation Going program.

http://attractionexplained.com/how_to_keep_the_conversation_going/

I break everything down into smaller, easier to understand pieces. I also give a whole lot of my personal tactics that are extremely effective to quickly take an opener into a place of comfort to lock yourself in the set. I break down conversations into easy to remember formulas so that you will always have something to say.

I explain how to find and build instant commonalities with girls and I give a technique you can use step-by-step in case your mind goes blank and you need something powerful to talk about.

Once you’ve found your commonalities and you are ready to close, I break down several different techniques for getting a number close with minimal risk of her flaking out on you for the next time you get together.

I have this program packed with information that is absolute gold if you are working on mastering your conversation skills and you want to take your interactions farther than a greeting.

Again, if you want to see more about that program, click the link below.

http://attractionexplained.com/how_to_keep_the_conversation_going/

Once you have mastered holding a conversation, everything else moves a lot faster.

My advice to you, when you feel comfortable with your approach, you are ready to work on holding the conversation. You can use my techniques or not, but challenge yourself to see how long you can hold her conversation and keep things moving forward.

Record your interactions or you can write about them in detail afterwards. I strongly suggest recording them. You will hear subtle nuances that way and it will cause your brain to autocorrect for the next cold approach you try.

Nice work man,

Adam

 

Is Your Comfort-Building Being Sabotaged By a Lack of Conversational Skills?

Many men who struggle to build comfort with the women they meet simply do so because they lack conversational skills – or at the very least, they lack conversational skills when talking with women.  They’ll walk into a nightclub and easily slip into conversation with a great-looking girl standing next to them at the bar, but as the banter starts, they suddenly find themselves at a loss of words.  Or the girl loses interest in what they are saying and subtly excuses herself to move on. 

It’s simply impossible to build comfort if you can’t find things to talk about with women.

A conversation must be moved along by having conversational skills.  But does that mean you’re doomed if you don’t have the gift of gab?  Not at all.  You just need to do a little prep-work first.  Let’s have a look at improving your blabbing skills so you can keep the conversation going.

The Trivial is Your Friend

A lot of men – especially the ones that struggle to meet women – aren’t really too fond of trivial conversation.  They feel that any discourse between two people should have some honesty and integrity behind it.  That conversations should be meaningful and intelligent.  Sigh.

Look, you’re not debating health care here, and women, who are so much more socially intelligent than most of us, figured out a long time ago that at the most basic level every human interaction starts out on a trivial level.  Because of this, many of them have learned to banter and have fun with trivial subjects of conversation.

Now, don’t confuse this with talking about the mundane.  Just because something is trivial and doesn’t matter a whole lot on the big scheme of things doesn’t mean it can’t be interesting and fun.  And it should be.

If you’re prepared and adept at turning almost anything into a conversation, you’ll have no problem keeping it going.

Learn to Grab Onto Threads

These so-called “trivial” subjects aren’t straws you have to grasp for – they’re actually presented in most conversations as a run of course.  Notice that when you’re talking with someone they’ll often hang bait in their conversations.  They’ll end a sentence with a reference to another subject or open up transitions for you.

It’s like they’re standing back, holding open a door, and saying, “Here you go.  Here’s something you can talk about.”

You should take this bait – this is the natural flow of conversation.  Don’t be the guy who spends the whole conversation focusing on the one commonality you had when you first started talking.

Saying Stupid Stuff Just Happens

Not everything you say will be perfect.  Not every joke will be funny.  People say stupid things all the time, and you’ll notice that even hot, social women say a lot of stupid things for the simple reason that they talk more than you do.  And no one holds it against them.

Conversation is not meant to be perfect, but it should move.  It should just keep growing.  Don’t think too much about everything you say, and if you say something dumb or uninteresting, just move forward.

Forget Your Goal for a While

Women are always on edge when they meet new men, and this is one of the reasons we struggle to build comfort with them.  They often assume almost all men have ulterior motives (often true) – not to mention that they assume some men are even dangerous (unfortunately, sometimes true as well).

So while it’s fine to have an ulterior motive for talking to a beautiful woman (you after all, human), you’ve got to at least mask that in the beginning.  Don’t just walk up with a predatorial stare and try to jump down her throat.

As the conversation unfolds, push your “goal” away for a while.  It’s hard for a man to do that – we always feel a need for purpose.  But if you just focus on having a great time and talking with a new, interesting person you’ve met, true comfort will build itself.  Eventually, you’ll have to escalate if you want to go further, but put that on the back burner for a bit.

Learn to Love Talking to Everyone

The best way I know to get better at talking with attractive women is to get better at talking with everyone else.  Start practicing your art of the trivial everywhere you go.  The supermarket.  The bank.  The men’s room (preferably not at the urinals).

Practice joking around with people too.  Don’t feel like you’re being annoying – instead make people’s day by shaking them up a little, highlighting a humorous observation about the world around you, and sharing a laugh.  The people surrounding you in the everyday world are people just like you.  Go ahead and connect with them.

As time goes by, you’ll become much more adept at making small talk with people beyond asking them their name, occupation, and hometown.  And the more comfortable you get with that, the easier it will be to converse and eventually establish comfort with the women you meet.  And it will be more natural.

Now get out there and do some talking!

 

To get more dating advice, check out my 6-video DVD training series and book called Street Seduce. This program sells for $47, but right now it’s available to you as a complimentary digital download when you join my website! It contains the core building blocks of my entire approach to becoming exceedingly effective at making it with the opposite sex. Don’t miss this! Just enter your email address so I know exactly where to send the entire Street Seduce training package to you right away with my compliments.

Get Better at Building Comfort with These 5 Simple Tips

Building comfort is a crucial part of interaction with any human being.  But it’s especially true with women because they so often feel like men only want to get something for them and don’t really care about who they are as a person.

Not to mention that for most women, who are more emotional in nature, it’s crucial to have a spark for any relationship to work.  Sure, women can do strictly physical relationships, but they typically must feel like there’s at least a dash of that “something more.”

If you don’t learn how to build trust and rapport with a good-looking girl, if you don’t learn to make a connection, your attempts to sexually escalate will at the very least fall flat on their face and at the worst leave you looking like a creep.

Here are some tips for helping you with comfort-building if this is an area you’re stuck on.

1)  Avoid the “Everyday Questions”

One of the first lessons in building proper comfort is to avoid (like the plague) those everyday questions that people ask each other just to pass the time or make an excuse for idle chatter.

You know the ones I’m talking about…”How are you doing today?”  “Where are you from?”  “What do you do for a living?”  “What are you studying?”

Sure, there’s a time and place for questions like this, but asking them right when you meet someone is not going to endear them to you and make them intrigued to talk with you more.  They hear this from everyone else all day, most of whom don’t really care about the answer.

It doesn’t inspire.  It doesn’t connect.

So learn how to be more creative in your conversations with people.  Learn to talk about extremely trivial (but fun) things or to talk about more meaningful, emotional subjects.

2)  Show Interest in Her Most Insignificant Accomplishments

Some people can be quite boring to talk to and may not have the most interesting things to say – especially when you first meet them.  Then again, some women are quite interesting, but us men feel we need to impress them, so we spend a lot of time highlighting our own great experiences and qualities without stopping to acknowledge the things they’ve mentioned.

Have you ever heard it said that everyone’s favorite subject is themselves?  Imagine this world as a place where everyone walks around so self-interested that we sit there and talk to each other about ourselves without ever acknowledging one another’s stories (listen to the typical conversation and this isn’t far from the truth).

So ignore yourself for a minute.  It’s fine to let slip your more interesting tidbits, sometimes, but think of it as hinting at them rather than talking about them.  Remain somewhat mysterious and don’t tell her everything about herself.

Congratulate her on her story instead, no matter how much “cooler” yours might be.  Ask her questions about it.  She’s giving you something to talk about, so capitalize on that.

3)  Learn to Establish Common Ground With Just About Everything

The true art of comfort is realizing that we all have common ground and it’s quite possible to make a connection with just about anyone if you think about it.  She comes from a Mexican family and you just happen to love Mexican Food.  She went to school at UC Davis and so did your best friend – in fact, you visited him there before.  You both want to travel someday.  You both love Seinfeld.

Sure, sometimes we find even stronger connections with the people we meet, and that’s great, but you don’t have to be soul mates to establish rapport.  You just have to be able to find something to talk about with and agree on.

It most certainly isn’t rocket science.

4)  Don’t Be So Negative

While it’s important to learn how to converse about just about anything, do not get the idea in your head that your problems make good grounds for meaningful conversation with someone you just met.  Bad, bad, bad.  All you’re doing is building a negative connotation in her mind about you, and that, my friend, is the opposite of comfortable.  It doesn’t feel nice, and it doesn’t make her want to spend more time around you.

A few dashes of cynicism are typically appreciated, but only if they’re done in a friendly, humorous, and good-natured manner.  Don’t be the type of man who takes the world too seriously, either in your own life or your interactions with others.

5)  Don’t Get Too Comfortable

It’s definitely possible to get too comfortable.  Don’t do that unless you want to be her new best buddy, and I’m guessing that the last thing you want is another woman telling you she just wants to be your friend.

So where does the line get crossed between healthy rapport and becoming nothing more than a friend?

Well, first off, keep the conversation interesting by breaking rapport from time to time.  The best way to do this right is by being a little bit flirty and/or challenging her from time to time.

Also, remember that comfort is only one part of a successful interaction with a woman you’ve just met.  It’s a transition stage.  Ultimately, you’ve got to move it past the comfort stage and into the next level, which means sexual escalation.

If you never sexually escalate, you deserve to just be her friend because that’s what you’re acting like.

In a nightclub environment, if you’ve been talking with her for half an hour already, you absolutely need to push things to the next level.  Of course, this varies in other situations and is ultimately determined by each unique situation, but you’ll get a feel for it over time.
To get more dating advice, check out my 6-video DVD training series and book called Street Seduce. This program sells for $47, but right now it’s available to you as a complimentary digital download when you join my website! It contains the core building blocks of my entire approach to becoming exceedingly effective at making it with the opposite sex. Don’t miss this! Just enter your email address so I know exactly where to send the entire Street Seduce training package to you right away with my compliments.

Scientific Studies on the Importance of Touch

Recently research into non-verbal forms of communication have turned towards touch and what we convey through it.

Importance of Touch

What can touch convey?

Research shows that a compassionate touch from a doctor leaves patients with the impression of having stayed with the doctor twice as long as those untouched. The Touch Research Institute of Miami has found that even a short massage from a loved one can relieve depression, and pain; and in an experiment at DePauw University volunteers tried to convey certain emotions, with touch only, to a blindfolded stranger.  The recipients were able to discern eight distinct emotions by touch alone!

“We used to think that touch only served to intensify communicated emotions,” Dr. Hertenstein said. Now it turns out to be “a much more differentiated signaling system than we had imagined.”

Researcher Michael Kraus has led a study on the impact of touch on players in the National Basketball Association.  They studied the effect that frequency of touch during a game had on the team’s performance.  With few exceptions, good teams were touchier than bad ones!

If high fives and chest bumps do contribute to the success of teams on the court, it may be due to the fact that a warm touch can set off the release of oxytocin (yes the cuddle hormone!)  More scientifically this hormone creates a sense of trust and safety which reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol.  With this reduction in cortisol the brain can focus on more problem solving activities and the body interprets this touch as supportive.

The same is certainly true of partnerships, and especially the romantic kind, so remember the next time you touch someone that you are increasing their sense of trust and safety.  Kino is an important part of every man’s game to cultivate!

To get more dating advice, check out my 6-video DVD training series and book called Street Seduce. This program sells for $47, but right now it’s available to you as a complimentary digital download when you join my website! It contains the core building blocks of my entire approach to becoming exceedingly effective at making it with the opposite sex. Don’t miss this! Just enter your email address so I know exactly where to send the entire Street Seduce training package to you right away with my compliments.

Best Way to Break Out of the Friend Zone

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