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In the psychology field, these different ways of relating are called “attachment style,” and they are partly learned and partly genetic. Amir Levine, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist at Columbia University in New York, identifies three types of attachment styles: Secure, Anxious and Avoidant. Secure people make up over half the population and are typically comfortable with intimacy.

Those with an Anxious attachment style, about 20% of the population, often worry about their relationship and whether their partner loves them. They typically are emotionally giving and love to show and receive affection. Those with an Avoidant attachment style, about 25% of the population, may love deeply, but they are uncomfortable showing it. Often, they rely on their partner to initiate a display of affection. Sometimes, they don’t even enjoy receiving expressions of love and may tend to minimize closeness with others.

So giving types are initially attracted to reserved types and vice versa because they are so different.  Givers find reserved partners intriguing and want to draw affection from someone who doesn’t show it easily and reserved types often want to be drawn out of their shells.  Over time though these two types can develop relationship problems.  The giver can start to seem needy so the reserved partner reacts by distancing themselves which makes the giver give more in an effort to gain back the affection.

The good news is that attachment style can change. Whether you and your partner are opposites or not as long as you both can communicate your needs and wants the relationship can flourish. Experts say couples need to tell each other what they want and be specific!

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that men who spend just a few minutes talking to an attractive woman performed less well in tests that measure

brain functioning than those who talked to unattractive women.

Researchers believe the reason for this may be that men use so much brain power for ‘cognitive resources’ (trying to impress) that they have little left for other tasks, like memory. This may be because evolutionarily men are programmed to think more about mating opportunities than women.

The study was begun after a psychologist at Radboud University was trying so hard to impress a woman that he forgot his own address. Wanting to know the reason for this phenomenon, forty male heterosexual volunteers were gathered for the study. Each volunteer performed a standard memory test to get a base score. They then spent several minutes chatting with female researchers and took another memory test. The results showed that the men were slower and less accurate after trying to impress the women, the more attracted they were to a woman the worse their score became.

When the same experiment was repeated with female volunteers the scores remained the same whether they were talking to attractive men or women.

The conclusion is that men are programmed to think about ways to pass on their genes!

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This video explains how two different styles of game can be combined into one super powerhouse of a game. By combining direct game with indirect game you can have incredibly natural interactions that still convey truckloads of attraction.

Indirect game, where you get to know the other person for a while before dating, takes longer. Direct game cuts more quickly to the chase. Yet some people greatly prefer one approach over the other so you need to know how to tell who’s who…

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How about if I hand you a way of MERGING direct and indirect game into one catch-all technique that works regardless of the other person’s strong preference for one over the over… right now… with some tips and techniques you can use immediately today… and don’t be surprised if you get a date in just minutes.

Everything you need to go out and start practicing the combined technique is right here in this brief video. So just take five minutes right now to watch it and decide what you want to do with this for yourself.

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