Valentine’s in Ancient Rome

Valentine’s Day didn’t exist during the time of ancient Rome but men still wrote love poems.

However they weren’t tender caring notes filled with gooey romantic declarations of love or even flattery, the Romans wrote more about the pain and discomfort of love.  Love was viewed as something that torments the lover more like a nightmare than a dream.

Barbara Gold, professor of the classics at Hamilton College in New York describes ancient love poems that call love a plague, and accuse love of making the writer ill.  “You would never go out today and find a a valentine that says “You’re like a plague, you set my bone marrow on fire.” She says.  Gold suspects the dark nature of the love poems relate to the sexual dynamics of the age. “It’s all about how they viewed women – women are a torment, women are a plague,” she said. “I think it’s because men were terrified of the power that women have, and they projected those feelings. It was the men who had more power in ancient Roman society. But any force that made them feel less in control and less powerful — such as a woman giving or withholding her love — could be very threatening.”

Romantic ideas of love were quite different in first century Rome, most marriages were arranged according to wealth and status and love was never taken into account, at least most people never expected to love their spouse.

Today’s culture allows for people to marry because of romance and mutual understanding because there is more of an equality in relationships and we aren’t under the strict social constraints of Roman culture.

So be glad you can choose who to have a relationship with!

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The Stayover

An evening in

Researcher Tyler B. Jamison, from University of Missouri has been studying a new category of relationship that she’s dubbed “Stayover”. It’s been observed mostly in adults from age 18 to 29 and is characterized by partners spending three or four nights a week at the home of their significant other on a long term basis.  The stayover is an alternative for the “traditional” cohabitation relationship.

According to the study these relationships form out of convenience and a drive to remain more independent. Stayover couples tend to not share finances or belongings or even keys to the other’s home.  In effect they behave more like guests in their partner’s home. These couples want the intimacy of spending nights at home without the commitment of marriage or family.

The long term stability of the arrangements and whether they morph into cohabitation has yet to be studied. For now it is another type of relationship to add to the new pantheon of relationships forming in western society today.
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Study Shows Love is More Powerful Than Sex!

Brain distingushes between love and sexNew study by State University of New York-Stony Brook suggests the brain distinguishes the pursuit of love and sex as two separate emotions.

Brain scans taken of a small group of men and women who were to love showed that the areas of the brain associate with romance and the areas associated with sexual arousal overlap moderately.

“To our surprise, the activation regions associated with intense romantic love were mostly on the right side of the brain, while the activation regions associated with facial attractiveness were mostly on the left,” said Lucy Brown of the Albert Einstein College of Medicine.

The study also shows that the neural activity in the brain becomes more complex over the length of a romantic relationship, and that 40% of people rejected from a relationship tend towards depression.

So being in love is good for your health! See the full article here.

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