What Most Guys Do WRONG When Gaming

Hey man,

When most guys realize that they want to be better with women, they are usually at a point where they are stuck on one girl in particular. This one girl in their life plays a major role for them and he wants to learn the skills he needs to woo her.

There is so much wrong with this situation.

Why is it, that as men, we have found it easier to befriend the women that we actually care about and want romantically and date and sleep with girls who we aren’t attracted to?

Shouldn’t it be the opposite?

Yes. It should.

But it’s easier to be afraid than to get what we want.

Any rejection is a shot directly at your ego, and that is up at the top of the list for the most painful places to get shot.

I’m going to make an analogy between women, and sales:

In the sales world, there are individuals called “Closers”. They make the most money, they drive the nicest cars, and live in the nicest houses. Why?

Because they sell. He has a way with words that his rivals don’t.

They envy him.

They ask him for advice on how they can get his sale record and be like him and he can spout all day about how he got to be the best and what his tactics are. He has all of these tactics, strategies, loopholes, understanding, and wants to share it with his fellow sales reps.

So he does.

The sales reps write down everything he tells them. Every strategy and tip and hint on how to be the best at what they do.

Then he shares one of his biggest hints… But it get’s tossed to the side.

  • So what was this hint?
  • What is the one thing that they had to do that would drastically increase their sales?
  • How does this correspond to game?
  • How can guys avoid the friend zone?

The Closer said, “Often, all you really have to do is ask.”

Often, sales reps get so involved in talking up the product or questioning a person, they never find the right time to really ask if the buyer is ready to make the purchase.

Often, the only thing getting between a girl sleeping with you and not, is you asking.

If you don’t ask, how does she know that that is what you want? How does she know that it’s even an option?

Now PLEASE don’t go up to girls asking with the words “Will you have sex with me?”

…You probably won’t find that very effective…

Instead, make your intentions clear using your body language, word choices, sexual innuendos, and sexual banter.

This isn’t something that you should ONLY be doing or you will come off as a creep with a one track mind. It should be playful, fun for both of you, and occasional. She has to know you are a sexual person.

So Let’s Compare

What most guys do is talk with a girl that they find attractive and avoid anything that could hurt her feelings or make her not like them anymore. They are so afraid to lose this one girl, they get too afraid to spice things up or ask her for what they really want. A sexual chemistry.

That is how you get L.J.B.F’d by a girl. It is a prison sentence.

What You should Be doing

You should be friendly and fun, but not afraid to tell her your opinions on her terrible taste of music. Occasionally you should tease her sexually and/or move more sexually. Touch her more sexually as the night progresses.

WARNING: Too much might cause her to pull away, but there are always ways of recovering if that happens. It is better to escalate too much than too little, because too little, you never know what you are missing, but too much just means you need to cool it down.

For more comprehensive information on how to sexually escalate, or how to turn your friends into lovers, click the link below and check out my book, Understand Attraction. In it, you will find a complete guide from how to begin interactions with women to how to close them. I’ve also thrown in specks of information gold in there from my personal experiences that you can use as shortcuts in your own game.

Check it out below:

http://understandattraction.com/

Cheers mate,

Adam


Easy topic for sexual escalation

Fifty Shades of Grey is a 2011 erotic novel by British author E. L. James. Set largely in Seattle, it is the first installment in a trilogy that traces the deepening relationship between a college graduate, Anastasia Steele, and a young business magnate, Christian Grey.

It is notable for its explicitly erotic scenes featuring elements of BDSM.

Fifty Shades of Grey has topped best-seller lists in the US, the UK and around the world. So it’s a good bet that whoever you’re talking to will have read the book or at least heard of it.  Bringing up the book is an easy way to steer the conversation into a sexual direction.  Getting a woman to think about sex is a big part of building attraction

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Onward With Sexual Escalation – The Art of Moving Forward

When studying game, you’ll come across a lot of small tips and techniques that will help you with women.  You’ll learn new ways to build comfort, great ways to approach women, style tips for looking your best, ways to build value…it goes on and on.  Most of this stuff is good but it isn’t all crucial – there’s “no connect the dots” element to game that will lead you directly to a woman’s bedroom if you get it all right.

But one place where you absolutely cannot cut corners is escalation.  If you never gather up the courage to push a great conversation with a woman to the next level, you simply won’t ever get anywhere.

The exceptions are in the cases that you are a good-looking guy, she is an aggressive woman, and there is alcohol involved, but even these moments will often fail if you don’t do some escalating of your own.  And it’s certainly no long-term strategy.

There is simply no compromising escalation – it’s a must.  For this reason, a few things to think about for those of you who are struggling.

The Biggest Obstacle is Most Likely You

Sexual escalation is a very natural thing.  If you’re struggling to move your interactions past the comfort stage, it’s most likely because you are simply not doing it.

This might be because you lack the courage.  It might be because you aren’t sure how.  It might be because you have been out of the game for a while.

Whatever the case may be, you’ll move past this hump a lot quicker if you just realize that the problem stems from something you are not doing.  You must escalate.  You must learn when the time is right.  You must make it sexual.

Learn to Back Off and Start Over

It’s helpful to think about escalation as a balancing act.  You have to constantly gauge her reaction and take notice when you’re pushing too far, too fast.  When this does happen and you find her getting cold or backing away, don’t assume you’ve completely lost out – you probably just haven’t built enough comfort, and in some cases she may just be self-conscious about what other people are thinking.

Back off a little bit, break rapport a little, and then and essentially start over again in the comfort building stage.  You’ll find you can do this throughout the night, moving causally through the separate stages of attraction until you get it right or realize it’s a lost cause.

There Are Certain Things That Nearly Guarantee You Can Kiss Her

Surely you’ve heard of IOI’s, or Indicators of Interest.

When a woman does something specific, like ask you for your name before you ask for hers, catches your eye (especially repeatedly) from across the room, or swats you playfully on the arm, you can take these as signs that she is interested in you.

If she does a few of these things, it’s almost guaranteed, and you’d be a fool to let the opportunity slip you by.

Well, similarly, there are certain things a woman would never let you get away with unless she was also ready to let you kiss her.  And knowing when a woman is ready to be kissed is obviously a huge advantage on your part.

For example, if she’ll let you put your hand on her stomach and let it linger there, she’d probably allow you to kiss her – women don’t just let any man do this.  If she allows your face to come within inches of hers while talking flirty and doesn’t back away or get awkward, she probably wants to kiss.  If you’re dancing and your faces end up pressed against each other for a while, kiss her.

Know these things and use them by trying them before transitioning into the kiss.  In this way, you can only kiss a woman when it’s certain to work.

Don’t Feel Like You Lost Just Because She Stopped You

At a certain level of the game and after a woman is definitely attracted to you, persistence is an important thing in a man.  There’s no shame in trying to push a situation sexually when you know she likes you, and there’s no shame in her holding you at a certain distance.

As a caveat, I’m in no way saying that you shouldn’t always stop when she tells you to.  Make it clear that she has the decision to do what she wants.

But if you made a move and she stopped you but is still having a great time and hanging out with you – remember, you guys just met – as well as being flirty, and possibly making out with you, she likes you.  In cases like this, she just isn’t ready for sex (or whatever) yet and may want to wait for a certain amount of time to have passed so she can feel good about herself.  Try again later.

Don’t be needy.  Don’t be desperate.  But do be a persistent man who goes for what he wants.

Escalate.
To get more dating advice, check out my 6-video DVD training series and book called Street Seduce. This program sells for $47, but right now it’s available to you as a complimentary digital download when you join my website! It contains the core building blocks of my entire approach to becoming exceedingly effective at making it with the opposite sex. Don’t miss this! Just enter your email address so I know exactly where to send the entire Street Seduce training package to you right away with my compliments.